Tabby B has slept through the night twice in her life. Combined with the fact that I have never left her for an evening these two facts mean that I have had 2 complete nights sleep in about 9 months. Broken sleep can be a killer for some people, they find it really hard.
Unfortunately the professionals forget to mention the following 2 facts that I'm now going to reveal to you. Remember them!!
1. Newborn babies do not like sleeping by themselves. A tiny tiny percentage of newborns sleep perfectly in their Moses baskets, all the rest don't! I bought a Moses basket because that what people have when they have babies. I never used it. When we got home from hospital I tried to put Tabby B in it but she wasn't having any of it.
It's understandable really. 9 months living inside your mum all warm, comfortable and happy and then people expect you to sleep in funny sheets & clothes all by yourself. No way! A huge percentage of people co-sleep at the start, so long as this is done safely and the guidance is researched theres nothing wrong with it. In fact it can be a really lovely experience for you, your partner and your baby. It's funny because not many people admit that they co-sleep but for the first couple of days a surprisingly large amount of do do it!
2. Newborn babies do not self-settle. No way no how! Some people expect a lot of their children, but it's not their fault. There is a perception that 6 week old newborns all get put down in their cots at 7pm, get themselves to sleep and sleep through the night. Hahahaha, if only! Tabby B still doesn't self settle. Now some people say that I'm "making a rod for my own back" but in actual fact lots of friends, family and other mums all have the same experiences as me.
From birth Tabby B stayed up until around 11pm and fed to sleep. She came to bed with me and woke 3, 4, 5 times a night. At around 3 months I started to think that 11pm was a bit late. I was getting seriously tired!! I started taking her to bed at around 7pm and after a few nights she adjusted her routine to this. Now I go upstairs at around 5pm, Tabby B has a bath every other day (it's not advised to bath everyday to begin with) and she has a bottle (or 2!) and goes to sleep. Then we have a cuddle for about half an hour and I put her down. She wakes a couple of times these days, it varies really. She's been getting better.
Co-sleeping is ace though. I really like the fact that when she wakes up I'm there. I've never not been there for her in the night and that's something I really like. I don't judge people who go out and leave their babies it's just up until now it's not something I've wanted to do. We can have a cuddle in the night and I know that she's ok all the time, I don't have to get up and check when I'm worried. The only thing I'm struggling with at the moment is that Tabby B wakes for 1-2 hours in the middle of the night! We have a play and a chat, read a book and have a bottle. This means that I do get quite tired though, ugh, really quite tired!
We had a nice day today, I got quite a lot of sleep last night. We've been to Holt and to see some family. I've done some cooking for Tabby B too which is good. I feel a lot more positive since my money troubles. I still have them but am managing to see past them! They're not the be all and end all! Anyway, bath time! I hope you all get some good sleep!!!